Apr 23

Meet Jane Doe

Jane Doe is the name used for an unidentified woman.  Same goes for John Doe.  They’re also used as placeholders for someone who needs to remain anonymous and sometimes as a term for the everyday average person. Jane Doe could be anyone.  As a matter of fact I’m starting to think that she’s everyone.

“Don’t believe in miracles – depend on them. “  ~ Laurence J. Peter

People in recovery need to believe in miracles. Something has gone seriously wrong, the circumstances of how we got here may be very different but the results are the same.  Life is officially unmanageable. We know that something has to change and now we’re ready to take the first step.  Who we are and how we got into this mess isn’t nearly as important as who we want to be and how we’ll find our way out. If you’re reading this I probably don’t need to tell you that recovery can be uncomfortable but I do want to tell you that it’s worth it and you’re not alone.

The anonymity we find in being Jane (or John) both frees and unifies.  Knowing that we aren’t so very different and that we don’t have to publicly bare our souls gives us the courage to share the experience. I don’t think it makes much difference whether you’re recovering from addiction, codependency, grief or depression – if you’re suffering there is a need for healing.  We don’t need to know each other’s name, age, profession, drug of choice, childhood trauma or recent tragedy to understand what pain feels like.

This Jane Doe is not a doctor; neither is she a psychotherapist or a psychiatrist. What you read here is no substitute for medical advice. I am not encouraging you to go off your meds if you’re on them (or go on them if you’re not) or in any way recommending that you ignore doctor’s orders.  I just believe that it’s worth the effort to consider options that don’t include taking more pills or falling into another unhealthy behavior to numb the pain. This is just my opinion based on my own experience.

The ideas for recovery on this site come from the research of living, done the hard way, by making mistakes and looking for ways to put things right. There are plenty of resources to explore, there are programs with practical steps for rebuilding a life, habits that heal the body and new ways of thinking that bring peace. That’s what I want to talk about here.

I am Jane Doe and this is where I am today… Ready to surrender and expecting a miracle.


  • Jmrotek

    Great web site! Gives me insight on experience, strength & hope. Great day to be sober :)

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